Cancer Sucks Ass

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I'm going to interrupt my extended blogvation to talk about something pretty heavy.
 
Cancer.
 
A close friend of mine (and Tina's) was diagnosed with the big C a few weeks ago and is about to start chemo.  The out of pocket expense is going to be outrageous for her and her partner Kat to handle without help.
 
If anyone has anything extra to spare, it will be put toward their out of pocket expenses which are forecasted to be approx. $20,000. YEAH, I know.
 
You can read more of their story at:
 
 
Their donation page is :  http://tinamarie.bbnow.org/
 
No donation is too small and will be appreciated more theen you know.  They are also selling "Cancer Sucks Ass" t-shirts to help pay the medical bills.  Buy one!?
 
TinaMarie is a fighter.  She'll get through this okay, I know it.  <3 ya T & K. 
 

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20 Questions Meme

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20 Questions

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought? That I really need a haircut.

2. Do you miss anyone right now? I miss my Grandma.

3. If you could move anywhere else, would you? I'm really diggin' Boston.

4. If you could choose, what would your last meal be? Baltimore blue crabs with spicy seasoning.  A dozen or so with a couple beers.

5. What famous person, dead or alive, would you want to have lunch with? Lady Gaga would be fun.

6. What was the last book you read? Some stupid book for a training at work.  I recently started the testosterone files though.

7. What was the last movie you watched? The Forbidden Kindgom – Jackie Chan and Jet Li

8. What was the last song you heard? Eminem's new CD – Verbal Seduction.

9. What's your dream vacation? I'd like to visit the Galapagos Islands

10. What is the next trip you'll take? No idea.

11. Did you ever go to camp? Many many many times.. loved it.

12. Have you ever been in love? Yes :)   I am now…

13. What do you want to know about the future? I'd like to know how I'll inevitably die. 

14. Where is your best friend? In Stamford…

15. How is your best friend? I haven't talked to her much today, but I hope she doesn't have a headache.

16. Who is the biggest gossiper you know? Isn't everyone a big gossiper?

17. What does your last text message say? "I'll let you know asap." a response from my sister about going to the beach Sunday.

18. What are 3 things you've always wanted to do, that you still plan to accomplish? 1. Find a career that makes me happy 2. Get into the best physical shape I possibly can.  3. Quit smoking
19. What is one thing you've learned from your parents? Respect my elders… always be there for family and friends in need.

20. What is one thing you hope to teach your own children? To be responsible adults and to always be honest.

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GLAD to say that I’m marrying my wife again :)

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I've told Tina (in a cutesy, flirty way) in the past that I love her so much that I'd marry her again a million times :) .  I never thought that we'd ever HAVE to get married more than once though. LOL
 
Here in CT, we've had same-sex civil unions since October of 2005. We were excited in 2007 to be able to have our own civil union ceremony on January 1, 2007.  That to me will always be our wedding anniversary.  It was a small group of some of our closest friends and family and couldn't have been a sweeter, more romantic ceremony.  Everything about it was perfect.  She was perfect in her jeans and what I now call her "wedding top" with tears running down her cheeks.  Yup, perfect. 
 
Since Tina has always wanted that big, all out wedding with her "pretty white dress", we had planned to do that sometime in the future when we could better swing it financially.  This is still our plan and believe me, I want more than anything to see my girl walk down the aisle in that white dress.  I want to have that first dance at our wedding reception to our wedding song.  
 
Last year in CT, full marriage equality legislation was passed for same-sex couples in our state, and until October of 2010, it is still legal to choose to get a civil union as well. It has never been legal for a opposite-sex or "straight" couple to have a civil union since they've always been elligible for full on marriage. This October 1, 2010, the only option for any couple in CT will be marriage, and all civil unions will automatically be converted into marriages.  This leaves us wondering if we are even considered married right now in CT since I'm legally male now and we are still in a civil union until October. 
 
Last month I began looking into how to change my name/sex on our civil union certificate and I'm so glad I did.  I'm glad because I found out that it is not possible to make such a change on a civil union or marriage certificate!  Immediately I freaked out because that meant that I'd always be married under my birth name/sex.  So if I ever have to produce my marriage certificate in the future for any reason to prove our marriage occurred, I'd have to out myself as transgender and go through explaining myself. 
 
So I saught legal advice from GLAD and am I glad I did.  A very nice lawyer promptly replied to my email and told me that the only way to get my new legal name/sex on my marriage certificate would be to marry Tina again before October 1st.  Once we do that, we are legally man and wife. Wow, just saying that is cool.  If we don't do it, the only way to legally be married under my new name/sex would be to get divorced and remarried.  Yeah, really.
 
Conveniently enough, our community center's annual Pride festivities will be including a mass wedding by a local Justice of the Peace.  We thought it would be fun to join the festivities and tie the knot with the group at Pride, only it isn't looking much like there will be a group!  We are the only couple registered to marry so far. 
 
So, if you're going to be in or near CT on June 19th, we'd love your company at our wedding so come see me marry her again!  Other local bloggers will be there, in addition to some friends and family who live in the area. 
 
You're also invited to the Pride after party to celebrate the awesomeness of being LGBTQ along with our marriage because the after party is going to double a mass wedding reception where couples can slow dance to thair wedding song spun by the coolest ipod DJ I know!   We'll have music, drinks (limited open bar – beer, wine, shots), snacks and good fun for everyone for a low cover of $20 at the door.  Come party with us, blog friends!  There are certain out of towners who know they've got a place to crash if they decide to show up ;)  
 
If you want to get married at Pride right along with us, we'd LOVE to share an anniversary with you!  Hit me up for more information :)
 
Love you baby. 

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